«It happened at New Year’s Eve: he looked at me, opened his mouth and let out a grace and … I could not help it and I laughed! Nobody else did. In fact, he did not say anything so funny, it just seemed nice to me to see the conviction he had that it was going to be funny, and he, discovering me laughing at him, he smiled widely and we both knew instantly, without telling us, that there was » spark» between us .»

Since then, it has always been like this: he looks at me, he says something and I laugh, and he is delighted to see that he still makes me laugh … how good was that touch of humor and complicity all these years, so much that Humor and Love has become the motto of our family.

And I always tell my children: «find someone who makes you smile-laugh, that’s the signal.» So convinced I am that the most unequivocal sign that we get along well with the other is: «I do not know why but he amuses me«, that if one day one of our children came home with their partner and saw that he or she laughs their jokes I would be very relaxed, more than if I find out that he/she has a good career or he/she comes from a good family.

When we are with the young couples with whom we talk, I always pay attention to this detail, for me it is a reliable indicator that they will do well, it is not the only one, of course, but a very important one.

During the course of our life, knowing how to choose a suitable partner is essential. Although we usually look at the most different to us or complementary, in the long run, the most similar couples in education, tastes and hobbies, couples who are amused by the same kind of situations and things, are the ones that most easily get along and last.

To cope with the afflictions that life brings us, or, simply to decrease the lack of sleep that we have after giving birth and raising our children, to have a little sense of humor becomes an indispensable tool, a balm for so much diaper change and baby bottle or nocturnal colic. A funny phrase in the middle of the fight and in the midst of so much anxiety, it becomes like a jelly bean in the the moment of a pregnancy hypoglycemia: holy hand! The same happens during the adolescence stage. We must understand that besides these vital stages of our children it can occur labor or health issues, or other struggles.

We mothers have to juggle with all these «balls» that life throw us, when it’s not one thing it’s another, and when it seems that you have a resolved one issue there is a new waterway in another compartment, a non-stop, in that divine and enthralling multitasking that «fills» the day.

Sometimes, and with a higher frequency than you would expect initially, you want to disappear, to volatilize, and the truth is that you don’t … because you don’t know how!

If, in the midst of this drubbing, we have a partner who at the peak of a crisis makes us laugh, it is as if he/she punctures the stress balloon and we deflated with laughter, a release of endorphins that makes us able to deal with that issue and with those who wait for us. Humor gives lightness to our relationship as a couple, to our family and therefore to our life.