When we have a problem our brain focuses on it with the idea of solving it. This has a useful part because while looking for a solution also turns on, without us realizing it, our «unconscious brain» to find a way to solve it. Our unconscious brain is our great unknown ally, to which we take little profit, the one that starts up automatically at night and the one that makes us wake up in the morning with the appropriate solution, in short the protagonist of: «Consult with your pillow«.
But focusing on our problem may have also a negative part because given that some solutions are not immediate or do not depend on us, the fact of ruminating on what worries us incessantly ends up stressing and exhausting us.
To avoid or reduce this stress situation there are several options:
- we can try to stop think constantly about the problem, it is quite difficult
- to try to think about it in a certain period of the day marked by us
- to think in things that we like or distract us with activities that produce wellbeing: listen to music, walk, exercise, take a nap …
- or meet with a friend and «unfocus» our problem to move to make an active listening to her/his concerns or experiences. This force us out of get out from ourselves to be with others acting as a balm in our wound because for a moment we are not aware of what concerns us and so, it has a boomerang effect because we are able to take care of our friends at the same time that we benefit from it
So, the next time you have a problem that worries you and it is not in your hand to solve it, my tip of the week is that you meet with a friend, not to explain your problem, but to listen her or him with an open heart what struggles she or he has. You will keep in company, you will feel loved and you will return home with less stress, not only because you will see that everything happens to everyone while you were looking at your navel, but also because at that moment you will forget about yourself, what it happens to you and what you are worried about.
The best thing about this life is felt when you give … Unfocus!
