What is the best for you is always the best for each of those who are by your side.

Most of us will have, sooner or later, to make about 5 important decisions in our life:

• studies
• partner
• children
• work
• place of residence

We all end up taking them, the question is, how to do it to make it easier, faster and over the years we continue to believe that it was the best of all possible decisions.

Is about:

• Do as the Greek thinkers: go for a walk outdoors to a place that you love. When you walk you connect the left cerebral hemisphere with the right hemisphere and that makes you not only reasoning but also feeling, with which, the «eureka decision» that you decide will be the result of the best possible combination. Make a monologue in a pleasant environment, in the middle of nature, it is much more inspiring

• If you are one of those who clarifies when writing: make a «brain storming«: stay alone, pick up paper and pencil, listen a song that motivates you and feel what you really want to be, listen and write everything you can think it without fear, nobody sees you. When you have finished, go for a walk and clear up. Later you will reread and order these ideas. You will be surprised at what can come out of your interior

• Tell your doubts about the various options to the most trusted people without asking their opinion of what they would do in your place. You need a «listener» or, better yet, a «questioner» who does not advise you and who with his/her questions will help you to find out what you want. It will be good for you because some of us only order our brain and our ideas when we speak out loud, but do not ask for other’s opinion because this could «contaminate» unintentionally your will

• Consult whom have studied that career, whether or not they are married, whether they have children or not, like their profession, live in that city… or the issue related to the decision you have to make, but only to people with common sense and in order to gather important information that you may not have, let them tell you about their personal experience and keep in mind that it is theirs and it does not have to be yours

• Think what you would really like, not your parents, or your partner, or your children or friends. Be honest with you, do not betray you, you would not forgive yourself

If you listen to your heart (and not your brain, your wallet, your prestige, your ego… ) it’s easier, you’ll find the best decisions. The heart often asks us to shout from the depth if we pay attention to it, let it pass.

It is not about anything else, if you do it this way it is not so complicated, it can even be nice to make decisions, because they will produce a change of direction in your life that can be very exciting, even addictive.

Once the decision is made, do not go back on the subject, close the options folders and commit yourself in body and soul with the decision made to make it work. Give yourself a margin of time: a course, a year… to see that in practice if this decision fills you up and you can rest assured that if it does not, you can often change it, nothing happens, it’s not the end of world, take off pressure from above.

Learn that there are things that you will discard every time you choose, that’s the way it is.

And remember something very important: you can not make other’s decisions including here your older children.

Everyone is free and responsible for «right or wrong» in their own way, it is the only way to learn, to feel happy, so do not delegate, it will not comfort you to blame someone else later, take your future in your hands and…

Open the door!