Life is not fair. Why only a politician has made a good choice?

Seventh of the articles about the Catalonia-Spain conflict from the point of view of Happiness. Or how to be happy despite the political circumstances in which we live.

I am convinced that the different strategies that help us to be happier must be applied to the different vicissitudes of life to maintain happiness in the midst of so much restlessness. Next, I will explain my vision of this topic through eight of them.

8 strategies that I will comment on 8 different articles:

1. Reality and its lack of acceptance
2. We do not control anything
3. Binary thinking: with me or against me
4. Better to be fine than wanting to be right
5. To desire or not to desire a nation, that is the question
6. The pleasure of a nation or the absence of suffering a conflict: you choose
7. Life is not fair. Why only a politician has made a good choice?
8. Why 40% is a political problem and 60% is a problem of poor communication

7. Life is not fair. Why only a politician has made a good choice?

“You don’t have the power to make your life fair, but you have the power to make it joiful.” Johm Lookwood Huie

Life is not fair. Life is.

The acceptance of this fact does not imply that we do not do everything necessary, as much as possible, to try to correct the injustices that exist.

Justice is to settle between two inequalities or unequal. Intervenes, when there is no other choice, to arbitrate between conflicting situations, to enforce rights.

Each country has its own laws and rights. What is universal are human rights and minimum ethical issues that are also demandable to all individuals in a society.

As there are different political tendencies, some may aspire to implement maximum ethical issues according to their ideology, which is lawful as long as it is clear that these can not be imposed, but must be agreed, voted and put into practice only if  they are endorsed by a majority.

Once this is understood, what to do when justice judges us for having tended to implement maximum ethics issues without the necessary consensus and skipping the existing legality? Here there are two possibilities: either keep our principles in content and form and assume the legal consequences; or to give up in the form, although perhaps not in the content, to these principles and to abide the current legality in order to avoid losing our freedom.

In our life we ​​are going to have to make important decisions that will determine our future happiness. To the famous Ortega y Gasset’s  aphorism: «Me and my circumstances», I would add «and my choices». That is why it is important to learn to discern in order to know how to make a good choice. In this way:

• we must take into account our scale of values ​​and priorities
• we must have inner freedom and not feel somehow obligated by the people
• although we do have to take into account those we love, especially those whose happiness depends on us as it is for our children
• make the decision with serenity, not rush
• we must weigh the consequences in the short and long term
• bear in mind that sometimes neither one of the two options is correct, but simply different
• hat once taken, we will have to assume it fully

We must have cultivated enough emotional autonomy to not let ourselves be carried away by the social fervor of the moment and be able to discern adequately.

We must have ideals and defend them although not to the point of feeling «obligated» to make a decision that could compromise our freedom and happiness, especially if with doing so we are not saving anyone’s life.

Fulfill our part until we reach the border marked by the line that we must not pass for the sake of not compromising our happiness and that of the people we love. Stop in time, stop and get off at the station before the train derails. With or without others, everyone is responsible only for their life.

We must know how to distinguish between our battles, those of others and those of the world. My battles are my responsibility. The battles of the world belong to everyone, and each one of us must contribute and act without costing us a disproportionate personal sacrifice, without diminishing our happiness. We will not be heroes but we will continue to be free and probably happier people.

No other person who is not in our situation should judge us or give an opinion about the decision we have made… and even then.

We should not risk our happiness for things that do not depend exclusively on us.

As long as the happiness of our children is linked to us, our responsibility is first with them. Maybe we think that if we do what it is expected is the most correct, we will be an example for them and they will be proud of us, maybe… but their reality is that they will be much more unhappy because we will not be at their side to educate them and give them our unconditional love. Nobody else can do it, we are irreplaceable.

To my way of understanding, entering into prison was the border that should not have been crossed by any of the catalan politicians. If we take into account that our ultimate goal in life is happiness, I believe that the most intelligent decision, the most appropriate choice, was that of the only politician who resigned the previous day avoiding doing so the prison.

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